Tips For Helping Your Heathen Child Deal With Prejudice

Article by K.M. Spires, Lady of the Hall, of Hridgar Folk – reprinted with permission. Although written for a Heathen audience, PNC believes this article to be of value to Pagan and other polytheist parents.


Very few modern Heathens can honestly claim they were born and raised in the religion. At some point, the majority of us made the conscious decision to become Heathen, even though we knew how we would be viewed by the general population. We didn’t care, we were following our hearts and doing what we knew was right. Most of us would do the same all over again.

The same can’t be said for our children. They’ve grown up praying to the gods, their ancestors, and gifting the spirits of the land. They take it for granted. They’ve probably never set foot in a church, barring the occasional wedding or funeral. They eagerly await Yule and Ostara every year. They are clueless when someone mentions Noah’s ark, but yell, “Hail Thor!” every time they hear thunder.

As much as it warms our hearts that our kids have the opportunity to grow up in our folkway, we can’t forget that they live in a far different world than we do. They have some very perilous territory to navigate, and holding beliefs that are different from the majority make it that much harder.

I’m referring, of course, to grade school.

Most of us remember all too well what it was like to be a kid. How was ‘the fat kid’ in class treated? How about the kid whose dad was in jail? What about the quiet, smart kid that liked to sit under a tree and read during recess rather than play on the swings? Perhaps you were one of the ‘different’ kids, and can remember firsthand how insecure classmates treated anyone that broke the mold.

If you’re raising your child Heathen, you’ve placed them in that group of children that stand apart. This is nothing to be ashamed of, but know going in that your kids are going to encounter problems. They’ll be called ‘weird,’ ‘freak,’ or the ever-popular ‘devil-worshipper.’

Then again, having an ‘alternative’ religion may not be a big deal where you live. Perhaps you’re from a place where many different cultures have settled close together, like a metropolitan area or a military base. These places, where children of varied religious backgrounds learn to play and get along together, aren’t common. Most of the country still holds Christian values.

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Community Notes; December 12-18

This is a time when people are planning time-off requests for 2012. Here are some dates to keep in mind when making those requests. They are not all Pagan events, but they are events for which many people in our community have expressed extreme fanatical interest:

January 27-29; Ceremonial Magic for Pagans with John Michael Greer: http://shop.eyeofhorus.biz/Ceremonial-Magic-for-Pagans-p/cls-jmg1.htm

February 3-4; Star of the North Tarot Conference: http://www.tctarotcollective.com/

February 16-20; Winter Witch Camp: http://winterwitchcamp.com/wwc2012/Joomla_1.5.18/

February 17-19; Con of the North: http://www.conofthenorth.com/

March 9-12; MarsCon: http://www.marscon.org/

March 16-18; Paganicon: http://tcpaganpride.org/paganicon/

March 30-April 1; Anime Detour: http://www.animedetour.com/

April 5-8; Spring Earth Conclave: http://www.earthconclave.org/

April 6-8; Minicon: http://www.mnstf.org/minicon/

May 6; In the Heart of the Beast MayDay: http://www.hobt.org/

May 19; MN Scottish Fair and Highland Games: http://www.mnscottishfair.org/

June 1; Climb Witch’s Hat Tower: http://www.pperr.org/events/icecream-social.html

June 14-17; Northern Folk Gathering: http://www.facebook.com/event.php?eid=179255092128922

June 17-24; Earth House Midsummer Gather: http://www.earthhousemn.org/

June 22-24; 4th St. Fantasy Convention: http://www.4thstreetfantasy.com/

June 23-24; Twin Cities GLBT Pride: http://www.tcpride.org/

June 29-July 1; AniMinneapolis: http://animinneapolis.com/

July 1-6; Faerie Spirit Gathering: http://www.kawashaway.org/

July 5-8; Convergence: http://www.convergence-con.org/

July 12-15; Sacred Fire Circle In Paradise: http://sacredfirecircle.hawkdancing.com/

August 3-5; Diversicon: http://www.diversicon.org/

August 6-12; Sacred Harvest Festival: http://harmonytribe.org/

August 14; Primary elections

August 18- September 30; Minnesota Renaissance Festival: http://www.renaissancefest.com/MRF/

August 23 – September 3; Minnesota State Fair: http://www.mnstatefair.org/

September 8; Twin Cities Pagan Pride: http://tcpaganpride.org/paganpride/

October 5-7; Gaylaxicon: http://www.gaylaxicon2012.org/

October 12-14; Autumn Earth Conclave: http://www.earthconclave.org/

November 6; General election

December 21; End of the Mayan calendar. Also, I’ll be throwing an End-of-the-World party, and you’re invited. I’ve already booked the Sacred Paths Center.

December 25; Meals on Broomsticks: http://umpaganalliance.com/

Susu Jeffrey – Community Elder Marks Seventy Years at Coldwater Saturday

Highway 55 encampment, Susu's birthday 1999

Susu Jeffrey is an elder in many spheres, and in our Pagan community. She is a visionary, writer, and poet. She is a percussionist, singer, and ritualist. A social activist and advocate for human, water, environmental, and Native American rights. Once a reporter for a major daily, she has contributed to PNC-Minnesota. This month Susu turns seventy and invites you to join her celebration!

Come to Susu’s 70th Birthday Party at the entrance to COLDWATER SPRING Sat., Dec. 10, 2011, from 2-4 PM.
Bring a biodegradable vision gift for the last natural spring in Hennepin County-to tie onto the 30-foot locked fence. Coffee, hot chocolate & ice- cream-cake: Full Moon-traditional group howl!

Coldwater is between Minnehaha Park & Fort Snelling, in Mpls. From Hwy 55/Hiawatha, turn East (toward the Mississippi) at 54th Street, take an immediate right, & drive South on the frontage road for a half a mile past the parking meters, to the cul-de-sac. Dress for the outdoors.
www.FriendsofColdwater.org  … BYO Chair !

I interviewed Susu today. Many know her, but many also don’t know much about her. Susu can be maddeningly irritating, persistent, loving, and deeply profound all in the same conversation. However she makes you feel, you know she has wisdom. I usually include my questions, but with Susu just state a subject, and she will share her thoughts!

Susu:

I have three degrees, five books, and thirty or forty non violence civil disobedience arrests. My first Pagan gathering was in 1979. It was a Pan Pagan gathering and it was like coming home, ya, this is what I believe. I asked my mom when a child, “What do you believe in?”, and she said, “I don’t know honey, I guess the sun”. My parents didn’t believe in a deity, you would call ‘god’, but they did believe in social justice. My father was in Congress, and I am very proud of what they both did, particularly my father. He was in Congress in 1942-44, one term, and he was one of the authors of the GI Bill of Rights. He was a poor kid, his parents were gypsies. They had no social standing at all. He put himself through school and became a lawyer who always remembered his roots. He always said, “You know honey, if you haven’t given away more money that you are allowed to on your income tax, you haven’t given away anything.” I grew up in the era of being part of a community, with the ethic of accepting obligations in being a part of a community.

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Empowerment Training Day for OccupyMPLS

Tuesday, Dec 6th, OccupyMpls sponsored Empowerment Training Day at Walker Church in S. Mpls. It was a day to focus on skill sharing. training, and discussion around the core issues facing OccupyMpls. It was designed to build a respectful and empowering culture within the movement.

Afternoon round table discussions

I participated for a few hours in both the morning and the afternoon. The event had a full schedule from 8am – 5pm.  I arrived about 10am to a room of about 60 people. Starhawk was going over the principals of meeting facilitation and consensus process.  Many present had some experience with these subjects before, and so the depth of the discussion during the presentation was directed at the particular problems facilitating a ‘general assembly’ presented to occupy organizers.

About 10.25 am the meeting was interrupted by an announcement the Plaza security had ‘raided’ the camp earlier that morning as about 8.30am and had taken all unattended items from the Plaza. Several county commissioners phone numbers, who were reported to be meeting Tuesday, distributed and calls were made in rotation as the workshop training continued.

The importance of incorporating core values into the consensus, and general assembly processes was emphasized, as well as the need to select the best decision-making process for each issue the group faced. Consensus Process is not needed for many movement decisions, just the major ones where core values are being defined.

I returned after lunch when open group meetings, now about fifty with many new people, were in progress. Five topics were under discussion at smaller round tables :

  1. Direct Action Strategy
  2. Visioning
  3. General Assemblies
  4. Guideline for “New Norms”
  5. Diversity within the Movement

Each group kept notes on its discussion with the aim of discovering insights, and gleaning items for later general assembly proposal and consideration. Every fifteen minutes or so, the groups paused and people rotated among them as they felt called. I participated in the visioning, direct action, and diversity groups. At the end of the session, spokespersons from each group summarized the discussion and outlined items that deserved further work to integrate the ideas within OccupyMPLS.  A contact person and email  was established for each work group and a sign-up for messaging within each group was posted.

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